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Envy: What is it Telling You?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | November 18, 2021 |
Jo Ilfeld | Executive Leadership Coach | Envy: What is it Telling You?

Hands up if you have an occasional stab of envy when a friend or colleague shares something about their life? Yeah, me too. Sometimes when we experience envy, it could be a really good signal to us of something that we really care about or something we might want to prioritize in our life. But…

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How do you know when enough is enough?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | November 10, 2021 |
Jo Ilfeld | Executive Leadership Coach | Enough is Enough

For the past few months, I’ve been returning again and again to this question, “How do you know when enough is enough? I will give you an example of what I mean. Over the summer, my kids were at camp and I put together two care packages for them. It involved a whole lot of…

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Less Focus and More Blending

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | October 20, 2021 |

Even in sunny California, the season is changing. The mornings are crisp, I rarely worry about being too hot on my weekly hikes anymore, and often when I wake up now, it’s still dark (never very motivating for a non-morning person like myself!). It’s also a big month in my world. My youngest is getting…

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Ambition vs. Gratitude

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | October 14, 2021 |
Jo Ilfeld | Ambition |Executive Leadership Coach| Ambition vs. Gratitude

Ambition vs. gratitude and the tension between the two.  Do you feel that there is so much in your life that is going well and yet you still want something more? And then you feel guilty because you feel you are not grateful enough for what you do have? Many of my clients feel this…

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Process Vs Goals?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | March 10, 2021 |
Jo Ilfeld | Executive Leadership Coach |High Achiever| Process vs Goals

Do you constantly beat yourself up about not having reached your goals? Do you feel that unless you work harder and do more, you won’t achieve the goals you set for yourself? However, being a high-achiever means you ALWAYS have some goal in mind. So in essence, if you’re berating yourself for the gap between…

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How Not to Start off Your New Year

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | January 24, 2021 |
Jo Ilfeld |Executive Leadership Coach|How not to start off your New Year

It’s Saturday morning January 2nd. I often hike with one of my best friends on Saturdays. During Covid, we began embarking on weekly longer up and downhill 6-mile hikes.  Jo: It’s raining here in Berkeley. Is it raining by you? Sara: I’ll check. Just looks foggy here, no rain. Jo: So should we go today?…

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What Makes You a Bada$$?

By Jo Ilfeld, PhD | October 31, 2020 |
Jo Ilfeld |Executive Leadership Coach| What Makes You a Bada$$?

What makes you a bada$$? As part of an online program I am doing, the challenge was for me to record a video on what makes me a badass. As I was making a list of the things I am most proud of, at first I thought my bada$$ characteristic was persistency, for being able…

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