Change is Possible. But Not in the Way You Think.

People don’t change, right? They are who they are. Over the years, I have heard these words so many times from my clients and it immediately sends me into disproving mode —  I am a coach, right? I spend my days finding evidence contrary to that statement. People DO change. People change their habits. People…

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Bring Back Small Talk

For this article by Jo Ilfeld, CEO of Incite to Leadership on small talk the image shows a midlife woman with glasses chatting to a male colleague while holding a cup of coffee

Have you ever wondered if we should bring small talk back? Pre-COVID, I often discussed how the most important parts of meetings were the small talk moments—those informal chats while waiting for others to join or as everyone left the room. This small talk bonded people through shared experiences, like seeing the same movie or…

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Are Your Motivations Clear in Crucial Conversations?

For this article by Jo Ilfeld, CEO of Incite to Leadership on overcomplicating things clear motivations the images shows a woman with crossed hands thinking.

Have you ever worried about having a crucial conversation and whether it might upset the other person or tarnish your relationship? Recently I discussed with my husband a difficult conversation he needed to have. One key aspect we talked about was his motivation for having this conversation. It’s important to be clear about your motivations…

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Do You Overcomplicate Things?

For this article by Jo Ilfeld, CEO of Incite to Leadership on overcomplicating things the images shows six post-its with chalk lines scribbled between all of them.

An edited version of this article appeared in Forbes Coaches Council Do you overcomplicate things? During a recent strategy session with a client, his mind spiraled the minute a strategy was mentioned. His thoughts went into overdrive, trying to formulate a complete plan ready to execute. This led to his next realization that he would…

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Leading In Complexity: Landing a Max 9

For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on leading in complexity the image shows a plane landing

Leading in complexity is paramount. In turbulent times, it’s crucial to remain steady. Nothing illustrates that better than the recent incident with the Max 9s, where part of the airplane malfunctioned mid-flight. I used this scenario recently with a client, who was struggling with a major reorg they were overseeing. They expressed how hard it…

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Treat Strategic Time Like a Doctor’s Appointment 

For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on strategic time the image shows someone holding an ipad with a schedule.

Do you want a tip on how to safeguard your strategic time? During a recent conversation with one of my clients about blocking off strategic time in the calendar, a lightbulb moment occurred for me. This particular client was sharing her struggle of preserving her blocked-off time and how it quickly vanishes like pixie dust…

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How to Get out of To-Do List Hell

For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on to-do list hell the image shows a yellow background with a empty list and a pen next to it.

In the midst of “to-do list hell,” it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and trapped in a never-ending cycle of tasks. Do you feel like you’re not making the impact you want as a strategic leader because your to-do list keeps giving birth to other lists? Well, I have a few suggestions to get you out…

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Strengths Analysis: A Key Question You Are Missing

When analyzing your strengths, what’s one question you probably don’t ask yourself? It’s common to assess our strengths and weaknesses through tools like a SWOT analysis. I often do my own for myself and my business at the end of the year. However, amidst this process, there’s one crucial question often overlooked: How do we…

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Why Is Change So Emotional?

For this article by Jo Ilfeld, Executive Leadership Coach on on why change is emotional the image a yellow painted wall being painted over with an orange roller.

In the midst of organizational change, ever wondered why rationality often takes a back seat? Recently, I was talking with a client about a big change effort that she and her team are immersed in.  We were exploring why individuals weren’t embracing the transition logically. The conclusion we came to is that change invariably carries an emotional component, whether it promises improvement or upheaval. Even if the change is for…

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